The Search for Barbie

Confession: The genesis of this topic occurred a few months ago, as I found myself thinking as I was driving, “huh, that woman on the side of the street is good-looking.” And with the generosity of one of the other writers, I suggested we change topics, as now the summer is upon us and some folks are looking to wear their swimsuits and bare some skin.

Over ten years ago, as a 30 something, I attended a forum at the University of Texas concerning pornography. Remember this was 10 years ago or more. The stats I remember:  more porn related businesses than McDonalds, the porn industry makes more money than the NFL, etc. At the end of that session – I resolved not to stare at a woman. The scenario, you’re sitting with your girlfriend or wife, and a shapely, young lady walks in-Do you give a quick look? Where is that point in your mind when  you have “lusted after another”? (Matthew 5:28)

Basically, I realized that at times you can’t avoid that first look, but I have to force myself at times not to take a second look. It takes resolve and discipline, but a thought occurred to me recently, “Am I becoming complacent?”

I recently graduated from an evangelical seminary. The president of the school exhorted us to remain faithful, esp. sexually. If we have a problem in that area, we are to tuck our diploma under our arms, and leave the ministry. The church doesn’t need another fallen minister to defame the name of Christ!

But I wonder about some guys who are searching for a Barbie Doll for a wife.

In a similar vein, I wonder about modesty. If men try to not “look,” what is the role of women and how they choose to dress? I know that Southern Baptist Seminary (not my seminary) has a resource  on modesty.

And what of the pressures of living in a society that focuses on looks? I found a blog that  addresses body image from the Asian woman’s prespective http://www.thickdumplingskin.com/ (perhaps worth a look, and a possible followup post).

 

Jeremy Lin & Asian American Male Sexuality

I have to join in on the conversation here.  First of all, I’m excited and proud to see all the attention Jeremy Lin is getting, not only because he’s an Asian American and a Christian, but because he has worked so hard and shown such courage to get where he is today.  And because, as described in the previous post, he has serious talent!  That’s just fun to watch.

Growing up, I feel like there was a lack of representation of Asian American men in popular culture, that I could look up to.  And that kind of thing is really important in one’s childhood… to see positive images of people you can relate to.  I rooted so hard for Yul Kwon, the first Asian American winner of the hit reality show, Survivor, and felt so validated when he outmuscled and outstrategized his competition.  And today, I love seeing Jeremy Lin tear up the court, proving all his doubters wrong.

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