…we pretty much ignore, apparently.
So this is probably old news to much of the world, marriage might be a religious institution, we might have to go the whole nine yards and say that divorce is too.
And while we knew that the United States had long lost respect for the holy vows of matrimony, South Korea is not far behind. To be specific, Korea is third behind the US and the UK in terms of the highest rates of divorce in the world.
Quite a shame considering South Korea boasts numbers as high as 50% of the population being Christian. It seems increasingly difficult to correlate healthy marriages to Christianity.
We don’t have numbers for Korean American couples, but I’m sure they can’t fare that much better. The stress of the immigrant experience can only add to the burden on a marriage. I’ve witnessed marriages in which the couple serve as merely glorified roommates, and once the nest is empty, the opportunity to quit playing charades often grows. Confucianism can lead to the most hollow of relationships. Many children benefit from the parents’ sacrifices, but not from their examples.
I applaud the church in the above article for addressing the issues, as we cannot accept the fact that the mere proliferation of the Gospel will do the work of true transformation in the very metaphor of Christ’s love for the church. It is simply not in our culture to love one another well:
Contrary to the Korean system, husbands and wives “must learn” communication skills, Park said.
“In Korean culture [there is] no cross communication,” he said. “Men are handicapped; they don’t know how…. You must learn to talk to one another in order to enjoy a healthy relationship. Pastors must learn these skills and then teach them to their congregations.”
The following video asks the question, “Is Marriage Dead?” by NYC’s “The Resident”. Marriage is absolutely a sacrement (holy moment), but we bear the responsibility to value it in our own lives. What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.